Monday, May 10, 2010

The Sound

Photo Credit: Martha Stewart

Here's to each and every one of you today who answer to the sweetest sound in the world~ "Mama".

For those of you who are still waiting and who long to hear that sound~ this post is for you.

I have often sat across the table from a longing heart who desired more than anything to have a baby of her own. Each situation uniquely different, the sound however, is always the same. The unspoken sound that is recognizable within two seconds after meeting someone. Talking with someone. Listening to someone.

That sound is hope.  There is another sound that quickly follows if that heart has endured the pain of waiting for any amount of time. That sound is hope deferred.

Because when you are waiting for a baby, the days feel like weeks and the weeks feel like months and the months ~ like years.

There is a scripture that comes to mind about this very sound.
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the the desire comes, it is a tree of life.~ Proverbs 13: 12

I want to encourage those of you who are still waiting with this one little word.......


When the desire comes, it is a tree of life. 

When~ Not if. 

Not maybe. 

Not might. 

Not perhaps. 

Not if only.  

But WHEN. Oh that's your word today sweet reader. When. It's when. It's a timing thing. It's a God thing. It's His timing. It's His hand. It's by His power. It's when He decides. It's when we let go and let God. It's when we choose hope and faith over fear and doubt. 


Be encouraged this morning sweet reader if you are hanging between the balance of the words in this scripture. If you are the one waiting. Because it is only a matter of time.

Coming from a heart who waited 13 years between babies. Who was blessed with a pregnancy 5 months after marriage only to lose it.  Coming from a heart who endured a year and a half of hoping for another pregnancy only to lose again. I also have never received more invitations to baby showers or more birth announcements in the mail than during that year and half of waiting for a baby. And just about everyone I knew was pregnant.  It's easy to relate to the "hope deferred" part of that scripture when this is your reality. 

So I did what any good southern girl would do. I threw a baby shower for a friend. And then another one. And another one. And another one. And lost count with all the blessings....and loved doing so.

And then I started buying little baby things for my new baby~ by faith. I bought the girliest, fluffiest things and the sweetest and most precious little boy things and I even bought those tiny newborn diapers. Sure did. And I would sit and pray and ask Him for a baby of my very own. Even when the Doctors and nurses told me to "check with my insurance about infertility coverage"~ I bought little baby booties and bonnets and baby powder and you name it.  I was preparing a place~ by faith.

It was not easy and I was incredibly discouraged at times. But with each little item that took up space in our home, my hope and my faith grew. And then. Suddenly. It happened. Those two long awaited pink lines appeared. And our precious baby girl was on her way. And then suddenly. Our sweet little boy.

And the after our son was born I was blessed with another pregnancy only to lose again but this time I was much further along. It was a devastating blow to our family and we were challenged in our faith but pushed through those difficult and painful times to see His hand in the end. Just when I thought it was over I was then blessed with two more sweet babies.  Grateful, thankful, humbled me. Beyond my expectations.....

I share this to encourage you. Of course everyone has a different story and situation but faith and hope and encouragement fit each and every one.  Some of you are believing for an adoption and I know that He has a plan to connect that precious heart with your loving arms in His time. His timing is perfect. It's the waiting that is so difficult. ~To my precious bloggy friend Lori with A Journey To Our Daughter,  If you are reading this I am still praying for you sweet friend and will continue to do so until that glorious day! God has not forgotten you but is ever mindful of you and the desire for your precious Kate.~

Something that helped to stretch my faith was to purchase those diapers and those sweet, little baby things. I have often encouraged friends and readers to do the very same thing and even place those diapers in the middle of the kitchen table like a centerpiece. I encouraged them to just thank God for the baby that is on it's way with each meal~ with each time they sit at the table. Just thank Him in advance for the sound of a baby in their house, for all the diapers they will have to change and for the sweetest and tiniest loads of laundry they will have to wash.

It stirs our faith and stretches us in really beautiful ways.

It is always an honor to pray for women who are believing God for a child of their own. And it is a tremendous blessing when they share the "good news" with me months and even weeks later. I rejoice and celebrate with them! And it increases my faith as well.

So for those of you who are still waiting.....

This is my Mother's Day gift to you. A simple prayer. May it bless you. Minister to you. And stir you in the depth of your spirit today. I also highly recommend the book titled "Supernatural Childbirth." It is a precious book that helped me tremendously.

If you are waiting to adopt...

Father I thank you for the precious woman who is reading right now. I thank you for the desire that she has to become a Mother Lord. I lift up those desires to you and ask that you would bless her with children and give her the tremendous gift of Motherhood.  I pray that as she is waiting and working through the process of adoption,  that you would do a quick work Father. That you would pour out supernatural favor everywhere their name is written and on every piece of paperwork. I pray for favor with the agencies and with the approval process. I pray for their finances to be blessed and that you would make a way where there seems to be no way Lord. I pray that people would give generously to their adoption fund and that you would be glorified mightily in the process. I pray that you would bring comfort to the empty arms of the Mother in waiting when her heart longs for a daughter in China. I pray that you would pour out peace that surpasses all understanding when its too painful to think about the daughter she's never seen waiting for her in Africa. I pray that the families and friends and communities surrounding them would be stirred to action to help, give, sow and bless these precious families. I ask you that you would speak to her during the night time when she is too worried to sleep. I ask that you would clear up the extraordinary amount of red tape in supernatural, unexplainable ways. I pray that the time would be short, your grace would be sufficient and that in the end the blessing and the gift of this child would far outweigh the process in Jesus' precious name.  May you be glorified.

If you are waiting for a pregnancy....

Father I thank you for the precious woman who is reading right now. I thank you for the desire that she has to become a Mother Lord. I ask you that you would give her the desires of her heart and open her womb and bless her with a healthy and whole child in the name of Jesus. I thank you that her body line up with your very word and that she is fruitful and can multiply.  I thank you that every time her heart aches for this precious child, it moves you Lord.  I thank you that every time she sees another baby and longs for one of her very own that you place your hand upon her Father. I thank you that the longer the delay the bigger the blessing, that her house will be full and so will her heart. I thank you for the conception of this precious child, for the positive pregnancy test and for the praise that will be yours and yours alone Lord on that glorious day. I thank you in advance and that eye has not seen, nor ear heard all that you have in store for those reading now Lord. I thank you that your goodness and your grace and your mercy are above and beyond what we can even imagine and I praise you for the good and perfect gifts of children that are coming to the families reading now Lord.  May you be glorified........

Two pink lines are yours in Jesus' precious name.


lizziefitz said...

you ARE God's pearl!

Gabi said...

What a great post. As always of course. Oh, I miss Lori! sigh. I hope she is doing well.

sarah said...

ok sweet was another precious precious going to be passing it on to a friend that needs. it..xoxo

Becca said...


I will never forget the faith you helped to plant in my heart early last fall when I emailed you sharing my ache for a baby. I CAN NOT believe that I only have 9 weeks left carrying this wonderful little BOY!

How precious you are in the eye's of our Father. You are doing such mighty work for Him by encouraging His sweet girls!


PS-I've started a blog but I don't want to post until it's "pretty", hopefully I'll have a layout soon. ;)

paige said...

beautiful encouraging words my friend, just beautiful

Jennifer said...

oh my goodness! That is the sweetest bundle of joy words I have ever read.

How encouraging and hopeful.

love whispered with baby breathe to all the moms and moms to be!

Kathie Truitt said...


Becky said...

Sibi, Oh, how I could have used this post back in my days of infertility. You have such a gift of encouragement!
As for me, I try to tell anyone and everyone who will listen that it is truly a matter of God's perfect, PERFECT timing. That today I sit in a rocking chair holding my 10-month-old son and simulatenously feeling my unborn daughter kicking me. When God rains it, HE POURS IT ON. Blessed be His name, Blessed be His name, Blessed be His Sweet Name forever and ever!

Pretty in Pearls said...

So beautifully written, Sibi!

~Crystal~ said...

My friend Kathie Truitt told me to come right over & read this. I'm one of those longing....Thank you is not enough for taking the time to write this post. As I sit here in tears, I receive the encouragement & the words of the prayer. :)

Nancy said...

Oh Sibi, I always feel like you are speaking directly to me. Thank you for this post, I have faith! It is my deepest desire and I've turned it over to Him. His plan, His timing.

PS. I too pray for sweet Lori, one of these days her journey will bring her to her daughter.

Amanda said...

Thank you so much for this post! It brought tears to my eyes. I am BELIEVING & waiting on the child I know He is going to give me... been waiting 4 years now & I think the time is close. I pray it is close. *blush* He has done such amazing things in my life on this journey & I just want to tell the world! :) Without Him I couldn't survive this! Thank you soooooooooo much for caring so much & for the beautiful prayer & encouragement!

~ Amanda

PreppyBumpkin said...

I thank God for you, and this post. Being one of those ladies in waiting, Mother's Day was such a struggle and challenge.

God used you to give me encouragement and hope. The prayer spoke right to my very core,and I sincerely can't thank you enough.

Mrs. R said...

What a beautiful prayer! Thank you for continuing to lift others up in prayer!

Maxine said...

I am a new follower, as of today! I found you from someone's blog page. I will add you to mind, as soon as I can! I am 43, I just gave birth to a beautiful little girl, on Aril 6th. We named her Hope Faith Wiggins. My other kids are 22, 24, 26, I had my tubes tied 22 years ago. I remarried 12 years ago to a man that has one child 16 years old, I decided to have my tubes untied in hopes of sharing a child with my Husband about 10 years ago, after losing 4 babies, one complete tube destroyed, and many other female issues, our Faith in the Lord, sustained us and we were blessed with our Dream, a beautiful, little girl Hope Faith Wiggins. You can see her on my blog page. She is wonderful!! Praise the Lord.. It's not if, but when, as you stated!!

3 Peanuts said...

Beautiful. I pray for Lori too. It is so hard.

nest of posies said...

love you sweet friend!

already moved to tears with this post & now all these lovely comments.

how humbled am i, that i can call you my true friend in real life & now see how others treasure your words. what a blessing this post is to so many. leave it to you, to do a post that is so needed for mother's day opposite of the mainstream. only YOU!


Patricia said...

Kellie sent this to me at the exact moment I needed to read it!
Thank you it was so beautiful!
God Bless

Robin said...

Thank you!!! you are the best and the words that our lord gives you are a blessing to every one who reads them.

♥Kerstin♥ said...

Thank you for this wonderful posting. I just found this blog entry online and I absolutly love it. I really needed to hear it today, so thank you thank you thank you.
Greetings from Germany

Coastal Southern said...

I needed to read this today. Thank you so much for writing this and for the beautiful prayers. Your story gives me hope that in God's time we will be blessed. Thank you, Sibi.

Erin Southwell said...

Hi Sibi, this is such a beautiful post. I am linking to it if that is ok with you! Blessings, Erin

Love Being A Nonny said...

If my heart were longing for a baby, these words would be such comfort to me. I too have had the honor of praying for a new life to begin and the blessing of seeing those prayers come to fruition. Praise Him!

I have prayed for several years for Lori and remember mailing her material for a quilt she is making for her precious girl. I cannot WAIT to rejoice with her!

Thank you for being so sensitive to others. Love you Sibi!

Stefie said...

My sister Lissa showed me this on Mothers day. I lost my first pregnancy last October, and I would have been due May 10th. These words were such a comfort and just what I needed for such a time as this...

Thank you for listening to the Lord.


Unknown said...

You are such a beautiful soul. This makes my heart so full. Thank you thank you thank you. xoxo Emily Ley

Bianca said...

I stumbled across your blog today after reading your post 'The New Church Lady' and decided to check out your previous posts and then it happened I saw the words that I know far too well "grief" and "miscarriage." How I wish with every inch of myself that these were foreign, they aren't. They are my reality. I have a secret stash of baby clothes at the top of my closet in the office. From time to time, I find myself holding those little onesies and praying that the God would soon choose me to be a mama. I lost my first child a week before mother's day last year. This post truly touched me. Thank you so so much for your sweet words. I am still praying for my miracle.