Monday, September 7, 2009

In Response

Pearls and Grace Dress Up Cabinet

Thank you so much to each one of you for your comments, kind words and questions! Here are a few answers to some of your questions and I will post more in the next few days! To those of you who asked for pictures of the nursery, etc.- I would love to show you once I have curtains up and pictures on the wall. There isn't very much to show you right now as I feel like we are still living out of boxes! But, here is a picture of my girls' dress up cabinet to tide you over. I have to say that I love it as much, if not more than they do. It is absolutely precious!

Granny Smith Green asked "How do you do it all?"

GSG when I read your comment you know that I had to laugh.....:) I wish you all could see me with all four babies hanging out of two different grocery carts. I push one cart and pull one cart. Rushing up and down the aisles trying to read my own handwriting off of some version of a list. There are usually at least two crying and the other two have opened at least half of what is in the cart. I allow this craziness just so I can get through the shopping. In addition, it never fails that someone has to go potty- right when I am trying to pay. I don't think they really have to go you see. It's just the novelty of discovering what the bathroom looks like in every single store and restaurant in town. Of course, it never fails that during the checking out process- someone has reached over and grabbed a packet of reeses cups and is very politely slurping the chocolate and peanut butter right through the wrapper. Oh yes. We've got it together over here alright. :)

But I try. I try really, really hard. I also do my best to pray every morning for God to pour out the anointing of Motherhood upon me and the anointing of love upon our family. In fact, if I had to say in one word HOW I do what I do. It would be just that. Love. That's what motivates me and drives me and encourages me. That incredible, beautiful love that I have for each and every one of them. That doesn't mean that I do not feel discouraged or frustrated or even worse, like a complete failure. I do. I really have those days. We all do. I certainly have made my mistakes. But the desire to pour out that unconditional love I so desperately want them to experience trumps those feelings every time. LOVE NEVER FAILS.

It's interesting to me that the very thing that was stolen from me as a child and even as an adult is the very thing I am determined to give my children. Maybe it's because I know in a very deep and unfortunate way how hard life is without it. Life is beautiful- but life is also hard. The hard times can be a little easier if you have incredible parents and extended family to lean on. To trust. To seek counsel. To gain wisdom. To pray for you. To offer hope and encouragement. To love you unconditionally through the hardships. I have never known unconditional parental love. I have known abandonment. I have known rejection. I have known abuse. I have known all of those things that go along with that- but never unconditional love. There is so much power in it. It will hold a family together tighter than anything else......

So when I am on duty 24 hours a day 6 days a week, week after week, without an ounce of help or support .........I just simply love. When I am fighting back tears from the sheer exhaustion of my duties....I love. During the 19 months of showings and open houses and four different buyers and the fatigue of keeping a house "show ready" with four babies underfoot.......I love. After a huge move and a husband working and living in another state for months......I love.

I am driven by it. Motivated by it. I chase after it. I desire that to be the center of my life more than anything else. I want my children to relish in it. I want them to know in the very core of their existence- that no matter what..........they are loved.

It's Raining Pearls asked " Will there be another Pearl Event?" and "Have you thought about compiling a book?"

Yes! There will be another Pearl Event!

In fact, the desire of my heart and I believe what the Lord is calling me to do, is to create an event in Atlanta, Dallas and NYC. This is not set in stone but it is in the very beginning stages as there is a lot of time, effort and attention to detail that goes on behind the scenes. I would love to host this precious event every weekend. It was that life changing for me and I am still in complete and total awe of how our Heavenly Father moved and orchestrated that night. We did video tape it but decided to wait and tape several more events and then create one DVD to share with the blog community. :)

If you would like The Pearl Event to come to your city, church, group or organization please let me know. I know that God will work out the details....

In response to the book....all I can say is.....

My heart. My dream. My desire. His hand. His power. His timing.

I have been writing for years and desire for Him to use every single piece of my testimony to encourage and give hope to a broken generation of women while using my love of all things beautiful to bring a breath of fresh air into His kingdom.


Stylish Suburban asked "What is your favorite nursery decor for boys?" and "How do you feel about white nursery furniture compared to wood?"

I absolutely love an all white nursery for boys and any type of white crib. When I say "all white" I mean taupe, cream , linen, etc. Shades of white. I purchased white cribs for both of my boys and it did not feel or seem too feminine at all to me- having said that, I am ultra feminine. :) I think it's that light, white, airy look and feel that just makes your heart skip a beat. My thought process behind what we created with the boys is that one day they are going to want a Star Wars, Toy Story, etc. etc. room. While they are little, well, Mama wants and needs to create a beautiful baby sanctuary!

The most recent crib I purchased is from Restoration Hardware Baby. It is very handsome and a really beautiful shade of white and extremely sturdy. My favorite "type" of crib style is the old wrought iron cribs and even the Jenny Lind cribs but I was worried after our oldest boy literally "broke" his crib that those styles would just be too delicate for our babies! Our girls had a crib from Bratt Decor. I do not like the name but love the crib!

For bedding I love Shabby Chic Baby- which all four of mine had. Shabby Chic closed for a bit and then I just read that she is coming back -even better and more beautiful than before. Hopefully she will be creating a new baby line. I also absolutely adore Pom Pom, as well as Belle Notte and House Inc. - just to name a few.

I hope this helps a little Stylish. Thank you so much for your questions!

Elizabeth at Kentucky Mama asked if I had any reading suggestions on discipline and my thoughts on discipline.

As far as our house goes it has been a lot of trial and error. :) I am always reminded of that bible verse :Train them up in the way that THEY should go and they will never part from it. My interpretation of that is not only to train our children up in the admonition of the Lord but specifically in the way that THEY should go. Each child is different- wired completely different from each of his/her siblings. What works for one, may not work for another. You can call one child to the table and immediately he/she comes- while the other sibling resists. Just as each child gives and receives love differently - they also respond to discipline or correction differently. Which means for our house, that the manner in which we discipline is different for each one. Also it depends on the age of the child. I believe in bringing correction in love. That is my hearts desire. Does that mean that I never get upset or raise my voice? No. I absolutely do. But my heart is to" train them up" in the very best way that they should go. That takes time, patience and persistence. I believe those are some of the key ingredients in parenting little ones.

Here are a few books to help you along on your journey.

1. Parenting The Way God Parents- Refusing To Recycle Your Parents Mistakes (Katherine Koonce)

2. Grace Based Parenting- Dr. Tim Kimmel

3. The Five Love Languages of Children- Gary Chapman

Love being a Nonny asked to see pictures of the nursery and kids rooms. Soon!! I'm sorry I don't have any pictures for you yet but I will do a house post soon. I am working on it!

I also just want to say that you are an amazing Nonny! I love the way you love your family! May God bless you one hundred fold for the years of love and goodness you have poured into your precious family!

5 Bickies at Biscuits Are Never Boring asked: "Why did you move and how are you settling in?"

I guess the best way to answer that is to say that is was a God Move, a long time coming and an answer to prayer all rolled up into one! When we moved to the northeast 9 years ago it was never a permanent thing. But it was a career move for my Husband and a start of new beginnings for our family of three at the time! We absolutely love NYC and all of the amazing opportunities it has to offer. But we decided not to try raise a family in the city and moved "out" into a more suburban area and my husband commuted into the city, every day for 9 years. It takes it's toll on a family. We just longed for a slower pace and more time together, etc. but we are so thankful for the experience. I will write more about those experiences and reasons for our move as the Lord leads me to in future posts. :)

As far as settling in goes I believe that we are. I am doing my best to accomplish small things each day. My main concern is that I do everything possible to make sure the children feel like they are "home." It has been a hard transition with Daddy not home but I know it is just for a season and so I find my encouragement and strength from that!

I also wanted to let you know how much it meant to me that you would even ATTEMPT to come to the last Pearl Event! I am so appreciative of your efforts and so disappointed about the snow storm as well but I know that I will have the opportunity to meet you in real life again one day soon!

Elle at Elle's Cottage asked about having such feminine style- even with boys and my husband in the house.

One thing that I can say about that is that I usually ask Mr. P and G what he thinks and whether or not he likes something. (I'm sure he would much rather me talk sports facts with him)and I also compromise. I do not care for our bedroom furniture but he just loved it and we had been married for quite a few years and still did not have bedroom furniture! I just couldn't find what I had dreamed up in my imagination- so we bought what he liked and I dressed the bed like a gigantic, white, fluffy cloud! I have a weakness for linens. Love the linens.

I also do not adorn our home with lots of floral, chintz, trinkets, and artifacts. That's just not my style. I do not like clutter at all. I am a de- clutterer! I know there are lots of amazing homes that exhibit that style beautifully but I have so many "people" under one roof that lots of "stuff" would create more stress for me. Less is more. That's my motto. Surround yourself with only what you love and you will create harmony in your home.

Jill at Peeptoe Pumps and Pearls asked : "What is your favorite bible verse and why?"

I can remember attempting to read the bible years ago and thinking to myself , why on earth would anyone read this? HOW on earth can anyone read this? I don't get it! I would start at the beginning, the middle and at the end and I STILL did not understand it. It never, ever made sense to me. Try as I may, I just had the hardest time reading the word! He had to teach me HOW and then give me the revelation along with it. Once that started happening I couldn't get enough! Having said all of that, I don't have one favorite. I have many favorites and for many different reasons but I would love to share a few with you!

Joel 2:25- So I will restore to you the years that the locust has eaten.

Romans 8:18- For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared to the glory which shall be revealed in us.

Proverbs 18:16- A man's gift makes room for him and brings him before great men.

Isaiah 41:9- You whom I have taken from the ends of the earth and called from it's farthest regions, and said to you, You are my servant, I have chosen you and not cast you away. Fear not, for I am with you. Be not dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you and Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Isaiah 61:7- Instead of your former shame you shall have double honor.

Isaiah 62:2-4 The Gentiles shall see your righteousness, and all kings your glory. You shall be called by a new name, which shall also be a crown of glory in the hand of the Lord, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God. You shall no longer be termed forsaken..

There are too many favorites to list but these are just a few of my personal favorites. The reasons why they are favorites is that they just speak to my testimony and what He has done in my life. I am humbled daily by how much He loves us and how He can and He will bring us out of those unfortunate circumstances in life. He is amazing that way.....

I will answer more questions soon! Trying to catch up today! Miss you all.....


Jo said...

It's always so nice to hear from you. You described the shopping trip perfectly ~ that was so me years ago when my husband was on deployment ~ were you peeking in on me:)? I appreciate that you keep life *real* and sing the praises as well as acknowledge the shortcomings of life.


Raining Pearls said...

Thank you for such a beautiful response, can't wait to hear more. I'll be at the next Pearl event, maybe even at all three. Much love to you

Valerie said...

Thank you for your honest answers to some of your followers' questions. Can't wait to read more!

I've missed your inspirational posts, and have actually gone back to reread older posts just to get my daily dose of Sibi! LOL

Blessings to you from Kansas,

Lisa said...

Would absolutely love you to come to Dallas!

this blessed nest said...

love all the fluff & puff coming out from that closet! what a dreamy place. i know those precious girls love that space.

love love love the shopping story. and slurping out the peanut butter & chocolate from the WRAPPER. so true, so true. you, my dear friend, can always tell such a great story. i have always loved your "version" of funny story(ies) telling. it is always the best. your humor, sass, and your real life experiences...there is nothing better!

Grace at Home said...


I would love for you and the Pearl Event to come to Charleston, SC. We have a beautiful city, full of hospitality. If not though, I will continue to read, enjoy, and grow through your lovely blog. Thank you!

Lauren said...

Hi there! I am glad all is well in the Pearl household! I am amazed at how you get everything done. Sometimes I feel like I am hanging on by a thread. :)

It would be so much fun if you could hold a Pearl event in Atlanta. Please keep us posted on that!

Enjoy your weekend!


3 Peanuts said...

I love your answers. They are beautiful. it is such a blessing to see what God has done in your life Sebi. Thank you for sharing it with us. I hope you are settling in and loving your new home:)

3 Peanuts said...

I love your answers. They are beautiful. it is such a blessing to see what God has done in your life Sebi. Thank you for sharing it with us. I hope you are settling in and loving your new home:)

GrannySmithGreen said...

We LOVE you, P& G! Thank you for sharing your heart with all of us. I'm better for knowing you.

Becky said...

Dear Sebi,
I don't know why, but I feel led to take you to a sister's blog,
I don't know Katie at all, just happened upon her blog one day and have kept up with her since. Katie just went through the tragic death of her baby girl, Reese, and her testimony is simply amazing. She is holding so tightly to the hand of the Lord, and I want so badly to lift her up in some way. Perhaps I'm just meant to bring her to your attention so you can pray. Or perhaps there's something more we can do in the blogging community? I don't know, just thought I'd share her story with you. I'm missing your posts, and hoping you'll come back to blogging soon. Much love to you!

Amanda said...

love hearing from you and LOVE the dress-up closet, just lovely. thank you for always being ain inspiration and if you ever hold an event in chicago, i'll be there with bells on! xoxox

texasdaisey said...

It sounds like you do have that mother annointing. You said it the key is love and lots of grace. Your description of grocery shopping really made me smile as I remembered doing much the same with my 3 children.
Beautiful post and blog.

red ticking said...

you are truly blessed and a shining example of what God does for all of us. HE watches over all of us all over the world and guides us daily in our path. He will always carry you in your times of tears and exhaustion... but you already know this. sometimes it helps to hear it again... have a wonderful weekend... and take some time for you. xx pam

Bella said...

It is a rainy day here in the Southland, so I am trying to catch up on my blog reading. My "visit" with you here in blogland is always refreshing and encouraging and today was NO exception. I would love to attend an event if you schedule in the Atlanta area!!!

The Blushing Hostess said...

Well done. I too feel that way about the exhausting duties of small children/ multiple children. With a spouse frequently deployed for 9 months at a time, it does help me to read these thoughts and remind myself, thank you...

Elle said...

Oh, thank you for the nice response to my question! I enjoyed reading all your responses- so sweet!