Friday, February 15, 2013

Just In Case You Think It's Over








One of the biggest reasons I am so passionate about creating Pearl Events is this one little word.

Hope.

Because hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.  Proverbs 13:12

And you would not believe how many of us are walking around feeling utterly hopeless.

And many of us are walking around feeling hopeless about a number of things.

And The Pearl Event represents hope.

I can remember one of the absolute most painful times in my life was the first time I carried Macey into 
a new place by myself~ our new home~ a small trailer in a really bad part of town. And although I was grateful for the place,  I was absolutely terrified and felt every emotion under the sun.

I can remember holding her ~ just a baby and just weeping.

The kind, where there isn't a single sound ~ just tears.

I felt like a complete failure. And I also felt like damaged goods.

I can remember trying to get my mind around the fact that I was a single mother and there wasn't 
a long line of wonderful men waiting to marry a woman who had a child of her own.

I decided that it was over .

The dream of marrying someone incredible and having a big family of my own.  Over.

This was my punishment from God, or so I thought. Isolation, rejection, abandonment and loneliness.

I wasn't sure if God loved me, I was almost certain that He didn't. But I truly believed He most definitely loved everyone else more than me.

I would go on to spend many, and I mean many, extremely difficult and painful years and would walk through untold trials and extreme hardships.

Pain on top of pain.

For years I was so hurt and angry that these pieces were what made up my testimony.

I felt cheated, in a way, in life.

And although my daughter was a gift I did not deserve then, nor do I now, and although I loved her with a supernatural love, my broken heart was convinced that my life and dreams were over.

And no one told me any different.

For the first almost 28 years of my life, I walked through heartbreaking things that people make movies and write books about.

But God.

Those two words changed my life sweet friends.

And maybe you need to hear those two words today....

I was reminded of all of this yesterday as so many celebrated Valentine's Day.

As I was wrapping my husband's gift,  ( a framed page out of my journal from 1998 where I told the Lord that this man was the one I wanted to keep forever.)

The Lord reminded me of the many Valentine's Days I'd spent solo or the ones where I'd walked through some really difficult circumstances.

I can remember comparing myself to all the married girls. Wondering what on earth they seemingly had that I didn't. I can remember working in an upscale retail store and watching the couples coming in to shop for outfits for every occasion under the sun and wondering if that would ever happen for me.

But God beautiful friends.

But God. 

I thought it was over. But God. I thought I was damaged goods. But God. I thought there wasn't a soul on earth who would ever love me and my precious baby girl too. But God. I thought I would never get married and have more children. But God.  I thought that there wasn't a man on this earth who could love me in spite of my painful past. But God. I thought that God didn't love me at all, sweet friends...

It turns out I was completely and totally wrong. And it turns out that the creator of the universe is absolutely wild about me~ and you too. As it turns out, He really does love me~ and you too. As it turns out,  His ways are not our ways. And that box that we try and place God in, the God Box...

The box where we placed all of our heartache and despair and hopelessness and dreams that never did come true and the box where we placed God right in there next to all of that heartbreak...

Well, He will bust right out of it.  Every. Single. Time.

He is no respecter of persons. He is not. If He did it for me. He will do it for you.

He says so in His word.

He loves you. He does. And there is Hope. There is.

I know that your circumstances and situations and maybe even some relationships may look bad right now. I know. I know how bad it hurts and how dark the days can be and how long the nights can be and I know the pain that can come through well meaning friends and some not so well meaning, when you are walking through the fire.

Oh but the fire.

It will burn up everything that needs to go.

Truly.

Let it go.

Then trust God. Just trust Him.

And just for the record, getting married and having babies does not immediately equal living happily ever after.

It's just new fire.

It is beautiful and wonderful and amazing. And it is difficult and challenging and requires constant pressing down of self. It is ministry. Preferring the other with a heart of servitude.

Because God is always interested in the heart of the matter.

And walking through the fire in life, gets to the heart of the matter and it produces beauty, 
in our hearts and in our lives.

Married or single. Two pink lines or one. Giving birth or waiting in the fertility clinic.
Standing at the alter or signing the divorce papers. Depositing a check or waiting on payday.
With food overflowing in the pantry or waiting in line at the food pantry. Enjoying marital bliss or sitting in the marriage counselors office. Watching your friends get married, divorced and remarried or sitting in the pews solo through another ceremony.

It is not over.

Don't resist the fire.

Allow the Father to crush and press and push and unravel and get to the heart of the matter.

So that one day, you will stand and share with another person, somewhere, somehow, that the very things that the enemy intended to use to destroy you are the very things you stand on right now in order to point others to the Lord and to bring HOPE to a broken and hurting people.

This is why I created The Pearl Event....

And this is why, by God's beautiful grace, I can connect with almost any heart on almost any subject.

I can relate. I can connect. I get it. I understand. I've walked through and overcome more hardship than I could ever fill a book with, and still to this day, I am walking through some really tremendous fire.

But by His grace alone, I can stand and tell you about the goodness and the faithfulness of a God who truly has a purpose and a plan for your life- no matter what it looks like right now.

I praise Him every day for this huge testimony called my life.

I thought He was allowing me to be destroyed.

It turns out He was producing a pearl.

It is not over beautiful friends.

God's got this.  Your job is just to trust Him....


We know that in everything God works for the good of those who love him. They are the people he called, because that was his plan. ~ Romans 8:28

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is the Father who is full of mercy and all comfort. He comforts us every time we have trouble, so when others have trouble, we can comfort them with the same comfort God gives us. ~ 2 Corinthians 1:34

Don't ever forget kindness and truth. Wear them like a necklace (your pearls). Write them on your heart as if on a tablet. Then you will be respected and will please both God and people. Trust the Lord with all your heart, don't depend on your own understanding. Remember the Lord in all you do, and he will give you success.  ~ Proverbs 3:3-6

Do not worry about anything, but pray and ask God for everything you need, always giving thanks. And God's peace, which is so great we cannot understand it, will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. ~ Philippians 4: 6-7


7 comments:

Jennifer said...

Oh Sibi! How I needed to read this to be reminded that God still has the bad situations in His hands. I needed to read this to encourage someone else that even though the day may seem dark...the Lord still has you. I needed this to remind me that even though the situation that is surrounding my family right now - I can still look up and know that HE will guide us. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!

Laura said...

Oh my goodness, this post was just what I needed to hear! I have been holding on to heartache in my life and God has been telling me that I have to let it go and turn it over to Him but I continue to struggle with that, I am a control freak afterall. Thank you for the reminder that God is always in control and that His goodness shines through when we trust Him. Your sweet words are always a blessing!

Sheri said...

Wow - that was just beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your special heart with us - you are truly amazing! xoxoxox

Lissa said...

You were fearfully and wonderfully made for such a time as this! Man I love that video. It just shows how much power is in scripture and testimony. May I share it on my Facebook!! Love the hope that video gives!!!

melissa said...

So beautiful Sibi . thank you once again for sharing your heart, You are such an inspiration .. blessings!

Mrs.B said...

Beautiful TRUTH from God!
Thanks Sibi.

Michele said...

God is amazing and I am overwhelmed with how he continues to use you to send me His message -always at.the.exact.time.I.need.to hear.it. I read and re-read this today: Because hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

Thank you for your beautiful gift of writing and friendship. You are such a blessing to me! xoxo